Guys can see a girl and think ‘Wow she’s sexy’ and think about sexual stuff with her, but does that mean he wishes he were actually with her as opposed to you? Porn is the same, in my opinion.”“It’s not cheating.But if it’s something that you are not comfortable with or he is being disrespectful about it or obsessed with it then you need to tell him that you don’t feel comfortable with it and hopefully he respects that. Keep in mind they don’t love or care for the people they are watching, don’t let it bring you down or anger you.(This is a common justification offered for adultery, and to be fair a temporary separation is a more honest way to go about it.) But in either case, this goes deeper than the complaints of "I just can't stand him [or her] anymore" described in the article. Casually going out for dinner and a movie with someone is one thing, but intimacy—however you want to define it, whether emotional, physical or both—is another.As with everything within a relationship, it's up to the partners themselves to decide what they're comfortable with during the separation, especially regarding how much and what kind of intimacy in dating is allowed.But then when you look at the situation – you are by yourself. If you think it is cheating, then it’s cheating, just make sure you make it clear to him first that’s how you feel about it. I’m in a healthy relationship and we both watch porn, separately and sometimes even together. The only difference is that he’s not doing the imagining himself. I think the truth is that humans are biologically programmed to reproduce.Explain your expectations, learn what his are, what is your definition of cheating? So when we can’t help thinking ‘Wow, that guy is cute’ even when we’re in a relationship, it’s not like we’re cheating.This week on the message boards, y’all are talking about if watching porn is cheating. Then some may think its is safe because he is not with someone else. I think when it comes to whether it’s cheating or not, it’s up to you.I even hear my dad use that line, and I know he looks up those sites online. If it makes you uncomfortable you need to clearly communicate that to your partner. So if we can think about sexy things while we masturbate, like celebrities, what’s the difference with porn stars?
---------- You can follow me on Twitter and also at the following blogs: Economics and Ethics, The Comics Professor, and The Literary Table.Having been through it myself, I think it's easy to create logical solutions and arguments for all kinds of advice, but in the end, I also think it's about giving people the space to figure themselves out.It so happens that that is often done via what a relationship and its problems has to teach them. If we say there is, then we deprive people of learning, and hopefully communicating, about how they really feel and also to work through the relationship outside of its imposed rules, which is where two people have the greatest opportunity to come together in honesty as human beings.Being in a relationship requires communication, honesty and loyalty. In a way it may seem to be so, because he wants to spend time with those porn stars than to be with you.
But technically, what is considered cheating and what isn’t? So he is choosing to stay away from you to be with them.
Hope your bf takes on your feelings about it, but don’t be too hard on him.” Personally, I don’t think watching porn is cheating.